Wednesday, January 28, 2009
There are many ups and downs of public transportation and the number one issue is obviously the word "public", so one should assume that not all will be dandy. Today, while riding the public bus on my way to school, I was greeted with the common occurance of a fellow passenger chatting away. Welcome to cell phone hell!
It has always bothered me that people choose to bring this part of their lives on the bus but even more so when they pretend not to see you and laugh out loud and talk above everyone else around. Weren't they taught to use their quiet voice while growing up? I understand that people have things to say and chores to get done, but mankind survived without cell phones in the past and I am sure it is still humanly possible to do so for 5-10 minutes. I do it, and although my wife may get upset while she is in the middle of the conversation, I figure I can hear the rest when I get home.
If I can't bring food or drinks on the bus, why should another be allowed to litter it with annoying chatter where I am not even allowed to listen in on the other half of the conversation. I would rather hear the local indians speaking together in their native tongue than one random person speaking to themself. I don't care for your cigarette smoke and I certainly don't want to be polluted by your cell phone conversation either…
By the way this annoyance applies to all small enclosed areas. Don't enter an elevator with your cool bluetooth headset and don't pick up that important call while eating at a restaurant. If you have something important to say, excuse yourself or wait and call the person back at a better time.
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
I am a sucker for the fantasy of the perfect marriage and I imagined I would be the prince charming when I got married as well as my princess having no flaws, but the "happily every after" line stated in Disney and Hollywood films never talk about the moments between. In fact most religious sects have it correct from the moment they say I do by adding a key phrase, "for better or worse."
Lately my mind has been thinking a lot about marriage and divorce and it struck me odd, how individuals can go from head over heels in love to bitter sworn enemies. I have been to many marriage ceremonies and receptions and each time the faces of the couples are overjoyed with the new step they have taken in life. Some of those are still married today and others have chosen an easier path of divorce. What was the difference? Why did some remain true and the others falter? Life is hard and I believe as natural men, we all choose to take the easy path than the one less traveled. Maybe the problem with this is that the road has become too weak and we let is crumble beneath our feet.
Many factors can contribute to the downfall; whether it was money issues, the stresses of school and work, the new responsibilty of raising a family, a possible affair, or even an heated argument. We all make bad choices and it has been said numerous times that communication is the key. We've all heard it, but when the relationship is on the line, we shut down and say nothing. That same person that you fell in love with has become your worst nightmare. Some choose to work through it and others give up entirely.
To me love is eternal, and when I love something I hold on to it. I understand that sometimes divorce is needed under special circumstances, but I will never understand how you can truly love someone and then walk away with the most bitter taste of revenge. All too often divorce ends up in court with one name calling the other, with children tug-o-warred in between, with possessions and money bargained for, and ending what started out in love, in hate. Check HERE for related article
I am not here to correct Disney because I still believe in living happy, but couples must work through the worse times in order to fully enjoy the better. In fact when the stresses of the world are taken off of my shoulders, my wife and I still enjoy a love only read about and seen in the movies…
Friday, January 2, 2009
I love to speak my mind, and I enjoy blogging to the world even if it is seen by few people. Since most of my posts in the past have been about my family and more of a personal journal, I decided to make this blog to share my thoughts without intruding on my family affairs. This will be more about my personal feelings of the world around us, my opinions on current events, and things I learn and can share with others. You may not always agree with my ideas, but together we can grow and learn from one another. I hope I keep it updated often and that we all can come away with something new to think about…